[SchmennaLeigh]

Fear often stems from the unknown. The only way you can get over that fear is to familiarize yourself with a subject. Research is the way to go at first. And then get to know other families in open adoptions, both successful and unsuccessful. Don't lean towards one side or the other more. Ask questions. Get them answered.

But understand that every adoptee in the world has two sets of parents. You can't get around that. You can't erase that reality from your child's life. Nor should you. Closed or open, domestic or international, it's just a reality of life.