Yep.... People in general are "Clueless" when it comes to adoption!!! Don't let these comments get to you. Most of the time, people don't think before they speak... this is NOT a conversation that they alot of PRACTICE with. I basically take an "Education" stance, especially when they start talking "DUMB"
My sister had a "Mom-to-Be" Shower for me! It was a TOTAL surprise (3 months prior to DD coming home). I didn't know this type of shower exsisted.... They had pictures of DD all around the party area of the house, co-workers, family, friends, neighbors all came. DD was all set for everything for the first year (as she is still growing at a slow steady pace).
Sooooo, don't take these "DUMB" questions / statements to heart.... You need your energy for your little boy when you get HOME!!!!