I think what bothered me about the comment was this: I've been asked about my kids' "real moms" before, to which I just reply that I am their real mom. What bothered me about your hairdresser's comment was that the question wasn't about a birthmom, it was whether or not you'd be a "real mom" to anyone.
I do let things roll off of my back, but I don't understand why we have to be sensitive to everyone else, but just take it as ignorance when someone says something to us. What if you would have said to your hairdresser, "Wow, you look really FAT!"? You wouldn't, because that's taboo. We all have to be politically correct enough to know what racial groups prefer to be called, how to address people in different situations in their lives, etc. I think that we should expect the same.
Maybe by the time our kids are grown, adoption will be more commonplace and everyone will know the PC words? We've come a long way-my grandma is still from the generation that she thinks it's a shame my kids don't see their "real mom", and thinks it's great that I'm raising "someone else's kids", like I'm doing it to help them out. But she's 85, so what can you do?
You handled it well. I don't think you'll let it get to you.
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Katrina, PROUD MOMMY OF 3!!!!!!
Mom to two boys, 8 and 5, adopted from Moscow, and
Mom to a 6 year old girl, adopted from Seoul.
Special needs mommy with experience with FAS, dyslexia, ADD, FAE, CP/spastic quadriplegia, global developmental delay, and so in love with my kids it hurts!
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