[mycodybear]

I guess I should consider myself lucky going just over a year without any sort of negative, rude or offensive comment in regards to our adoption. But then yesterday- BOOM!- my lucky streak was broken. Three days before we leave to go get our son I decide I need to get my hair done. So yesterday I walk into some random salon and get an appointment with some girl I have never seen before. As she starts putting the color on my hair she asks what I do for a living. I tell her I'll have a new career as a mom in just one week and explain to her that we are adopting a little boy from Russia. "Oh, that's so cool" she says. Then she starts asking questions and before I know it- POW! Here is verbatim what she asked- oh, and did I forget to mention this hairdresser is 7 months pregnant- okay, so she says "Did you have to buy everything yourself or did you register for gifts like a REAL MOM". I just sort of sat there dumbfounded. Finally I told her I will be a REAL MOM. Then she back peddals and says "Oh, I didn't mean real, I just meant like pregnant moms do". The kicker was I couldn't really go off on her since she was in the middle of doing my hair and I didn't want to leave the salon looking like Courtney Love. And I really didn't feel the need to explain any further since I could tell she wasn't so smart as to "get it", so I stopped conversation and would only give short answers to anything she asked. I guess since I went so long with only positive comments, this caught me off guard- especially since she was pregnant. It made me feel like she was calling me a fake mom because I wouldn't be giving birth like her. I'm sure she didn't mean any harm, but sometimes people are just clueless!