[sugarbabysmommy]

I know a lot of adopted families (in person) who have open adoptions, very few of them actually have 3-4 visits per year. We do have at least 4 visits per year. There is no one set example of open adoption, all the people, their lives, are so different. I'm hearing you say you don't want to added commitment of visits and that they make you uncomfortable, so just be honest about only wanting letters and pictures with your agency and any exp mother. It's perfectly fine to want that. There is no reason to go into we travel, or we might move, or our lives are too busy, because even if you removed those I guessing you'd still be uncomfortable.

When you speak of an added complication I can understand that emotion, but it's imporant to note that even if your child's birth mother is not a physical presence in your child's (or your) life, she may have a large emotional presence for your chld. There are things about being an adoptive mom/family that are complicated or different from being a mom by birth, whether you have contact or not.

Again, tell the agency what you want and but there is no harm continuing to read...