My wife and I became foster parents last June to twin 4 year old boys. We did the training and went into this with the understanding that yes, they will leave someday. However, when the county called and said that they had a place ment for us, the Social Worker stated that the twins will most likely need to be adopted, and that we should not take this placement if we were against possible adoption.
Now at this time both parents have been in prison and won't be getting out for a while, the Birth Fathers family stated that they are totally behind us 100% in adopting them through a variety of conversations.
Now ** has been back into jail and again released. She has already lost 3 other children to tis lifestyle. But Dad is maiulative, sly and has a history of halftuths and abuse, not ony to ** but to Faternal Grandmother. He served 7 months and now has been jumping through all the courts hoops.
The Social Worker now says that ** won't make it but BF will probably make it to reunification. This is a guy that can't keep his life straight. for more than 2 years. His own sister has written him off.
I know we must... and will do whatever the courts say. But how can this be fair to the boys. He has shown nothing in the past to show being a good parent. His problems with the law is a mile long.
(sadley...)I know my wife and I ave our hands tied. I never thought I could love another chld more that a biological child... but I believe now. These boys a perfect angels in my eyes. I've never been so happy in my life. I would do anything for them, even if it meant saying goodbye, but how is this fair. How many chances is he going to get to neglect these kids?
I would very much appreciate any thoughts, or advice...
God Bless you all...
J.
