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Originally Posted by coco46
So agreeing to more openness than you're 100% prepared to honor for a lifetime because your worker says "it's the thing" is not necessarily going to make your placement happen faster, and it's just not fair to either the pbparents looking at your profile OR to yourselves.
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I can't second that enough. You have to believe in what you are doing, and be honest about what you do and don't want. It's also true that just agreeing to be open to speed things up garauntees nothing. We waited two years and ten months for our babe and we have a fully open adoption with visits with lots of birthfamily- whereas there are folks on these forums (and Coco gave examples of more) who have closed or semi who waited a lot less.
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Originally Posted by coco46
Like any new relationship, though, an open adoption doesn't have to mean (and in my opinion shouldn't mean) "instant best friends". It's work, and it can be difficult, like all relationships can. But, I know in my case, and in the case of many other families here, its rewards have also been great, especially for the children involved.
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Darn tootin
