[proudmommyof 2]

angelkisses-this is the root of the problem that I had posted about a couple of weeks back I think. I feel like the house needs to be cleaned, the kids shiny, etc. Then I feel like I have to handle every disciplinary problem perfectly, both kids need to succeed at everything they do, anything that they don't do perfectly is my fault, etc.


I do ask for help, but I'm selective. I post for help on these boards because it's more anonymous and supportive, and I have a few parent friends who I go to for advice. But sometimes I don't want to ask for help from others. Why? Because I'm afraid they'll think I don't know what I'm doing?

I think there may be some truth to the question about it being worse for adoptive parents. Meaning, we're harder on ourselves. I'll be curious to hear a bio-parent perspective. I think it's because we waited and wanted so long, that there is this sense of, "I wanted this so badly-how can every moment not be bliss?" Also, the whole feeling of, while waiting for children, "If I'm ever blessed with a child, I'll never...... (fill in the blank-get babysitters, let them go outside in muddy-kneed pants, bribe them to have them be good in public, etc.)"

Interesting discussion. I don't have any answers, but lots of questions. I'll be interested in reading more posts. And I'm always glad to hear others feel the same way.