03-07-2006, 07:46 AM
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The 'Perfect Mom' is a myth!!! But why to we still feel we have to be one?
Time for another discussion...
As I read thru threads throughout these forums...it amazes me how so many of us, especially as adoptive parents feel we need to be the 'perfect mom'...a super hero woman who never, ever asks anyone for help...who's home is perfect, kids are adorable...hair done...clothes just so...laundry done, folded and put away...make dinner...do the shopping...entertain? WHY??? And then many of us work outside the home...or from home and think we must be perfect at that too?
I *thought* becoming a stay at home mom (just 3 weeks into that) would make this myth go away...ha...I am already beating myself up...but WHY???
Why do you think we do this to ourselves? Is it *worse* for those of us who build our families thru adopotion? Is it imposed on us my society in general?
More importantly, how do we overcome this? What advice do you have for PAP's? How do finally enjoy our new families without guilt? Without having to be....Super Mom!!
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Proud Mommy to two...who have taught me I can not change their pasts but I can change me and the way I parent them~
*Yaya~My Siberian Sweetie ~born in 2001~Home 2002~Now 8 and a 'Tween', and in 3rd grade. She's all girl!!! 
*Bubbs~My Samaran Sunshine~born in 2003~Home 2004~now 6, in Kindy and such a sweet, silly & special boy! 
'My wish, for you, is that this life becomes all that you want it to, your dreams stay big, and your worries stay small, You never need to carry more than you can hold, and while you're out there getting where you're getting to, I hope you know somebody loves you, and wants the same things too, Yeah, this, is my wish.'
~"My Wish" by Rascal Flatts
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