hi,
I think many of us started out thinking that open adoption was a bit strange, a bit scary. it's often different when you meet folks who have this as their norm. ask your agency to have you meet with folks who are in an open adoption, ask them what they think, how it works for them, etc. the more you learn the more comfortable it may seem. also read a ton of books like "the open adoption experience" by Lois Melina, and "Raising adopted children" also by Melina. here's a website to visit as well that has a ton of short articles on adoption, including open adoption and birthparents:
www.pactadopt.org
and please heed the earlier posters and be brutally honest with yourself and with your agency. they'll match you with someone who feels like you do, whatever that is  .
good luck!
Lisa
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-first time amom to dd, born 7/7/04
-placed in our arms by a very loving bmom 7/9/04
-bfather's rights terminated 9/7/04
-just connected with bdad!!! 2/9/05
-visited bfamilies for a week, awesome trip 6/05
-bfather signed legally binding open adoption
agreement 7/05
-finalized (woohoo!) 18th of November 2005
-Thinking about adoption #2!
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