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Originally Posted by BrandyHagz
Well, at least for us, its certainly the reason the relationship was created – but our relationship has grown expeditiously since placement ten years ago. We’re friends, family and so much more.
We talk about dinner.
We talk about our weekend plans.
We talk about Dr. Phil and how much he annoys us.
We talk about photography.
We talk about our marriages, our husbands, our kids, our families, our mothers…etc.
I couldn’t imagine calling S on the phone and saying, “So, how is M? How is school? Is she getting good grades? How tall is she?
All of that stuff just comes up in our every day (and I do mean almost every day) to day conversations…but I don’t think I’ve ever just come out and asked…
For the record, we talk 1-2 hours every time we talk – and its usually 5-6 times a week…you can only talk about a child so much – even if you do think they are amazing!
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I just have to ditto everything here.
We don't talk on the phone as much recently because babies are often screaming on one end or the other. But we talk via IM every day. (Minus vacation, etc.) We talk about dinner, joining curves, D's son's feeding problems, Nick's sleeping problems, celebrities, how our husbands annoy us... etc. Every day she throws in something about Munchkin, of course. Today she was boycotting food and then decided to eat EVERYTHING IN SIGHT. I don't ask. She tells.
It's kind of the same thing as she doesn't ask me, "So, are you having any specific issues with adoption that I need to know about right now?" She knows that when I get to a point of verbally being able to discuss an issue, I'll bring it up with her.
Adoption may have brought us together but it's not the center of our relationship.