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Thank you both so much, I have been trying to read through several of the older forums to get a feel for amom/bmom relationships. I never considered open adoption before. I have three wonderful friends who are adult adoptees. Two of the three are closed adoptions. The young men know nothing about their mothers other than they were teenagers that got in trouble and decided to give them better lives. Neither is really interested in reconnecting and love and appreciate their anonymous bmoms for their sacrifice. The third adult knows who her bmom is and had minimal contact, she's happy to have the background info, but again not really interested in that relationship.
So I've really not had any positive experiences to draw upon when looking at open adoption. I've been stressing about this whole adoption process since we set a date to begin the process. On St. Patrick's Day, I'll be taking the wheelbarrel full of paperwork and our money to the agency and begin the screening process.
I'm afraid that because open adoptions are "the thing" as my caseworker put it. That somehow if we aren't game with the current trends it means we won't be chosen. I'm really fearful of that. We aren't wealthy people, we don't have perfect lives, but we have alot of love and laughter to give a child. But, who's going to chose us over a wealthier family with a big house and ivy league schooling options?
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