[Kimmisue]

While I understand that our son's bmom's lack of questions about him have nothing to do with her feelings about him, I made the mistake early on in telling some family members that I was worried that she wasn't "dealing" with the adoption because she never talked about it or asked much about ds. So my family, who I'm still trying to educate about adoption, have jumped to that conclusion. But they didn't get to know her like we did.

It also took her 4 years to be able to explain why she doesn't write as often as she wants and why she doesn't tell us everything going on in her life. She doesn't want us to judge her and she knows that our ds will read her letters some day and she is worried what he will think of her. (btw We have since opened up much more with her and she is confiding in us kind of like distant relatives now)

So, I don't really know what my comments have to do with answering your question, but I felt the need to put in my 2 cents.