[mom2GRLC]

My first reaction was NO. I would spend that last hour or so holding my child and giving them my full attention....the ONLY phone call I would certinaly make would be my husband(regardless if he was out of town/country...etc)

Even if i had a day or so...I still think I'd rather keep it all between family(honestly...normal visits under good circumstances are very difficult to handle emotionally so...I don't think i could bare birth family being there as well and having to share that time....it would just be so hard.

If I was told a week to a few weeks then I'm sure I could find my way....to finally be able to call them and hopefully set up a time to meet for a short time(I don't think I could handle having them their constantly for the last few days...etc...just way to hard!!!)

It's funny that I think my answer would be no...because my fs had a very scary thing happen a week ago when my husband was out of town(I didn't have his number on me). He's 16 months old and had a fever of 105.2 and was almost going into a seizure and not very responsive. I freaked out and called my sister first since she lives a couple minutes away and i needed to have her rush over to watch all the other kids while I ran him down to the ER. On my way to the hospital he started to look a little better but I was still very worried about him. I was so tempted to call his grandma(who we sit and visit with 1 hour a week) to tell her what was happening and see if she wanted to meet me at the hospital. I wanted her there...i wanted her support...but decided against it. I didn't want to worry her for no reason when it was likely just an ear infection(which it was), so I decided not to call her. But I had decided that if while we were at the ER if they suspected something worse then i would call her. Since we don't have contact out of DHS visits I didn't even tell her about the ER visit until a few days later at his visit.

It just goes to show that you never know what you might think or feel at the moment of an emergency. I say NO I would not call immediately but then again....I can't imagine not calling(especially if we do have an open ongoing relationship).

oh....I'm starting to think maybe the answer would be Yes. If they did come to the hospital they would certianly be such a good emotional support...I mean who in the world could have the same kind of love for that same child? That doesn't mean they'd have to stay in the room 24/7, I mean I am the mom...and most hospitals only let so many people in the room at one time....so I would definately be the one there holding my child MOST of the time.

Oh...it's just to hard to think about....why did I even bring it up??? =0( ok... I'm done thinking about it for now!!!!