I understand your fears and concerns about your daughter being around a convicted sex offender, even if it is her father. I believe that you are seeking a stepparent adoption in the best interest of your daughter. It can be a long and hard process, but with him being in jail, and breaking parole, it sounds like you have a good case.
Make sure you keep a log of when and how he contacts you, if he does. Get a notebook and write down everyday if he contacts you or not. Be sure to write the date for each entry. That way when you go to court, if the BF says that he still wishes to have contact with your daughter, you have a log right there that says he had the opportunity but did not take it.
Think good thoughts, and just focus on your family right now. If your lawyer is taking things slow, that will give you extra time to build up a good case against the BF. When things get very stressful and you feel ovewhelmed, just step back and remember that you are doing this for the safety of your daughter, and out of your love for your daughter. Her BF is sick and cannot be trusted around her. Perhaps once she is an adult she may wish to seek a relationship with him, but while she is still a child she needs to be protected from him, and you are doing the right thing. Hang in there!
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