[MelissaJohnson]

This Is sort of a silly question but I had wondered this while I was pregnant with my birthson.

It you were in a position to adopt a baby, got to know the pbmom, planned an open adoption arangment, and then the pbmom had the baby, either you took the baby home for a while or you didnt (either/or) then the pbmom decided to parent.

Do you think that it is sort of an obligation for the new mom to try to have an open relationship with you after the baby is born?

Would you want to have a relationship anyway?

I ask this because it seems in this situations ,or even in situations that are not like this, you are not just adopting a baby; you are adopting this specific baby.
So If you,the adoptive parent, were willing to have an open adoption with the pbmom, shouldnt they return the kindness to you.

This is convoluted and I am not sure if it is exactly what I wanted to say so maybe I will try again after some replys

(I am also going to post this on the birth mom part as well)