Jenna,
I mean this in the nicest possible way as Josh sounds an absolute rock...it is his problem not yours. Doesn't make it any easier though so just bear with him as he is supportive off you and accepting of Munchkin. Him being accepting of her is the most important thing here.
I was very fortunate in my situation that my in-laws are accepting of my son particularly in the circumstances. When my son was searching he found my husband's brothers who hadn't known about him at the time. Rightly or wrongly I didn't want to tell my in-laws about him unless reunion happened and my husband felt that it was non of their business. A side issue was that his eldest brother's (3rd
) wife was already making snide remarks that my husband couldn't have children as all his brothers and sisters have children. As we don't she often made horrible remarks about us not having children. She wasn't to know that the problem was (is) with me husband but the remarks still hurt. Anyway back to the point as my brother-in-laws didn't know he really was who he said they didn't tell him where we were. The eldest one was quite nasty to him as we had fallen out with him so he also got it in his head that this was a way for us to pull a prank on him to cause even more trouble. The other one wouldn't tell him anything as he thought my son was up to no good and lying about who he was.
We didn't know any of this until I found my son and he told us what he had done so we asked my sister in law (husband's eldest sister) if she knew anything about this. She confirmed she did and also that nothing had been said to us as they thought it was some kind of hoax ... that he was out to cause trouble for us so didn't want to worry us. My s-i-l was furious that one of the brothers had been been nasty about us to him and nasty to him...that is the only in-law we don't have contact with. We have tried laying our differences to rest with him as he has heart problems and we do actually care about him but he wont have any of it. It's no longer personal to us as he is upstting the rest of the family as well. Since reunion the rest of my in-laws have been supportive so I can't fault them at all...my problems are more with my family who refuse to talk about him despite them having intermittent contact with him
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Loads of hugs to both you and Josh...you have a great husband
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Pip
