[Shoshana]

I just can't let go! AARGH

Anyway, I've been thinking about this topic alot -- especially since I've been reading Beyond Good Intentions (and since I'm one of those angry adoptees who is now a mother to an internationally adopted child of a different race) (Maybe I should join one of the drinking threads!)

Seriously tho', the expectation or sentiment that international adoptees will feel more 'blessed' or happy, somehow, with their lives doesn't make sense to me at all. I think every step removed from a match on race, country, culture, etc., makes the potential challenges greater. For example, all things being equal (healthy, stable, loving families) I believe that it's tougher for American adoptees of color to be raised by white American parents than it is for those matched on race. I believe it's even more difficult when the adoptions are not only transracial but transcultural and transnational (is that a word?). How could it not be? The losses are greater. Unless of course, we expect those foreign adoptees to be thankful to us for rescuing them. UGH! Right back there again.