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Originally Posted by Aleea
Anyways, it briefly touched on children in Russian orphanages and they had a girl who was adopted by an American couple read a speech about how grateful she is that she was adopted and taken out of her orphanage to have a better life and so on. Just really rubbed me the wrong way.
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I don't understand why this would rub you the wrong way. What is so wrong about an adoptee from an orphange being grateful that they were adopted? For this poor girl to be in a orphange and to have finally found a family, probably filled her with lots of happy emotions. I'm sure her living conditions were a nightmare. Should she not feel happy or lucky or grateful that she was chosen over the hundreds of other children that were left behind? For her to say she is grateful is not wrong. It is how she feels. I see nothing wrong with that, I'm sorry.
What I think is wrong is when aparents THINK THE CHILD should be grateful to THEM. There is a big difference between a girl growing up in an orphanage, finding a home and being grateful that she has one and an aparent telling a child, you should be grateful we adopted you.
If it comes from the adoptee, I think that is fine, but it should NEVER, EVER COME from an the adoptive parent. For we adults are truly the one's grateful to have our children.