[LadyBugz]

How much of Gabby's routine has been changed? From the big things down to the small ones. Did you use to sing to her before bed and now sing to them together? Did you use to walk to the park and now drive? Did you use to have left overs from dinner for lunch and now have PBJ? If everytime she turns around, she finds her expectations being wrong, she's going to blame Cody and see him as the intrusion and problem.

Even if you can't help the routine changes, making new expectations could be helpful. Tuesday ice cream trip with Daddy while Cody goes to the coffee shop with mom. Something she can rely on. And, as mentioned before, where she can be the sole attention.