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I don't have any pic of my bdaughter out in my home because I don't have any pics to display. I would gladly put pics of her along with my other pictures. Most people who know me know that I have another daughter, and it has become just a matter of fact point in conversations that pertain to kids. It is not an embarrassment or a proclamation, it just is. On the other hand, I have had 22 years to learn the best ways to answer the questions, avoid the uncomfortable, and survive the well-meaning folks that just seem to say the wrong thing. The first couple of years after the adoption I kept my feelings only between me and my very closest friends. I would have never let on to my parents how truly broken I was, and I would have probably not displayed pictures of my daughter for fear that I would break down in grief. I had to feel I had control over something in my life and at 15 the only thing in my power was the emotions other people could see.
Jenna, I understand your apprehension over your inlaws. I know you will make the right decisions on the proper time to talk to them about Munchkin. Perhaps they will surprise you in their attitude. Besides, when the decoration bug bites you may just find a spot the would be made complete and perfect with a picture of Munchkin. Good Luck!
Kitti
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