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Hi there.
I'm in a similar situation. On December 7, I mailed a letter to a woman I am 99% sure is my birth mother and I still haven't heard a peep. My letter was brief - I figured it would probably freak her out a bit (my mom somehow managed to get a hold of most of the Top Secret (circa 1972) identifying information on my birth parents and, from what I read, my birth mother seemed pretty in denial as to her pregenancy, even more so as to my actual birth.) Basically I stated who I am, my status (single, employed, good upbringing, happy...) and what I was intesreted in (my medical history and either talking with her or even meeting If she was interested in that) I also made it pretty clear that I would understand that this might be shocking for her and that she might not wish to reopen this probably closed part of her life but that it would be very important for me to at least hear even that from her. - sorry this is a long, not very well-formed sentence. Anyway, I am finding this frustrating and imagine that you are perhaps feeling that way as well. Unfortunately I do not have any solid advice to offer you as I am still passively contemplating my next move - I am inclined to just go to her house (she lives only about a 20 bike ride from my apartment in San Francisco) but I do not wish to make her feel stalked or anything. I just fail to understand how someone can not respond - although I am keeping it in mind that I have had my entire life to think about this and lots of people to dicuss it with and she may have buried the entire thing so deeply that , well - may we both need to give it some more time?
Some time has passed since your post, I wonder have you thought about re-sending the letter - or perhaps you have by now. In any event, I do hope you find some resloution - preferable the kind you are looking for.
Amy
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