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Sure, non-RAD kids ask questions they know the answer to, but the difference is in the motivation, the frequency, the intensity. A typical kid might ask what you're doing while you're folding the laundry, but they'd do it to actually make conversation, whereas a RAD kid will do it to control you by driving you crazy. Typical kids talk to people to exchange ideas and feelings, RAD kids talk to people to manipulate and control and push away either intimacy or the disturbing memories and feelings inside. A typical kid could be redirected onto a legitimate conversation pretty quickly, because they would actually prefer connecting with you and sharing. A RAD kid might ask nonsense questions or do meaningless chatter dozens of times a day. On and on and on. You cannot get them to a real conversation, because that is scary to them.
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