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We have an Open Adoption agreement from foster care. She relinquished at TPR. No birthfathers in the picture, though. Our kids have older siblings with relatives, so most of our contact is with them. But, we see their birthmother occassionally. We are supposed to have three visits a year, but she often dissappears and sporatically calls for visits. We are working out the kinks right now, but my best advise would be to set up an 800 number and a P.O box. When we do visits we ask that she not be using. There are times when it gets tricky, but we're hoping to keep some sort of connection with her and we will always be in contact with their siblings. It's not easy, but we believe it's worth it for the kids.
BTW, the judge was very surprised to hear we agreed to open adoption here, too. I guess it doesn't happen often, for safety reasons, and I understand, as we have been nervous quite a few times.
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