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Originally Posted by cute
Donna:Each case is different and in my case b/dad and I went on to marry.Also lindsay's parents were deceased when we reunited.I suppose in that sense our reunion was very different,although would have liked to have met them and said thank you for doing what I could not at that time.
As for expectations it would be up to each person to let the other side know where to tread.If we all respect each other no matter which side one is on then we can and will have a healthy and happy reunion.
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Sandra,
I so agree .it is the respect issue that I am talking about. A birthmoms expecatations may be very different from an adoptees. an adoptee may or may not just be looking for info or just be able to complete the puzzle of or genes, ideneity(I know who I am...of course...but I don't know my genes). an adoptee asking about their birth father is a normal expecation for an adoptee in a reunion. For the good or the bad it does complete the puzzle and I don't feel by us asking we are causing anyone any undue harm.....to a birthmom it might be considered garbarge but to anadoptee it may be half of our genes...I would hope birthmom would respect that. just as I hope adoptee would respect the fact thae bmom may not know who birthfather is and not badger.....conversly I would hope that bmom would really try hard to figure out who it was because that IMO..shows respect in who the adoptee is...