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We have ongoing contact with birth family members on both sides of our sons' family (full bio sibs). We exchange letters, emails, phonecalls, photos, videos etc. We have not had visits yet due to distance. This contact has been ongoing for around 5 years.
Overall, its been good - GREAT in fact for the kids. Yes, certainly hard for them to face the reality of their first family situation and often times that reality has been accompanied by some difficult emotions, but I dont regret it. Its been hard word and a lengthy process, but still a good thing.
Our boys bfather would seem to be a very violent man and is incarcerated for a very long period of time; however he has been nothing but respectful to us and is so appreciative of contact. He has really made an attempt to address any and all questions the boys have and has been completely honest with them and taken full responsibility for his choices that resulted in pain to them. He feels like family now - and he is our friend.
Our boys bmom would probably still prefer that adoption didnt exist between us but her outlook is far more affected by her own mental health issues and the ongoing life issues that she faces. We do far more contact WITH her, than she does with us. Her extended family is very happy to have contact with us and her sister and I have a pretty good relationship.
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Jensboys - Mom of 4 Boys (2 adopted, 2 biological)  Reunited Sister
Fostering Miss Tiny and Miss Curious - Two Months and 13 months when placed May, 2009
Blogging about reunion with our 14 year old, Not reuniting with our 13 year old, transracial parenting, adoption and life as a minority family in a rural community. And oh yeah, now I have cancer.
'Oh, the audacity of authenticity. You’re going to confuse, piss-off and terrify lots of people – including yourself. You're going to pray it ends, then pray it never ends.' -- Brené Brown |