[mom2justynsarah]

Is there anybody on this board who is also a motherless daughter? I mean motherless in terms of a mother who has passed on.

How has your life changes since she passed on? How does her absence affect the way you are as a mother? How do you handle stress without reaching towards your mom? What do you miss the most? If you could spend just one more day with her, what would you do?

My mom died from breast cancer a little over three years ago. She & I were EXTREMELY close. I feel very lucky to have had a mother such as her. She was one of the nicest, most loving, non judgemental and wonderful person I have ever (or maybe ever will) know.

My life has changed drastically since she's been gone. The most significant change has been the adoption of my daughter.

It was in my mother's passing that gave me the most pround grief. Since adopting my daughter, she has given me the most profound joy. I always tell people how my beautiful daughter saved my life. She took my sorrow away and gave me reason to live.

Her absence has made me a stronger person. I have been shown that I CAN accomplish or overcome many obstacles (even when faced with devastation).

I also realize that life is what you make of it. When you are gone, nothing matters except the legacy you left. I try to enjoy each day and not succumb to depression.

Thankfully my sister & I have each other to cling to. She has been my greatest supporter (as I am for her).

What do I miss the most? I miss her presence. I miss her voice, her laughter, her hugs and kisses. I miss our conversations.

It's been so tough being without a mother. You realize that there is nobody in this world who will love you as much as your mother.

If I could spend just one more day, I would just put my arms around her and my head on her chest. I wouldn't let her go. I would kiss her and tell her how much I love her. I would gaze deeply into her eyes as to never forget her soul. Lastly, I would put my nose to her neck and sniff in "her" mom smell.

Ok, I hope this didn't sound too depressing for anyone. I just wanted to share what my experience of being a motherless daughter has been like. If you can relate, please share your story.

This post is not meant for those who don't have mothers because of horrible relationships. It is also not intended to talk about the loss of the birthmom. It is solely about losing your mother through death.

Julie