[resabelle]

For what it is worth, we adopted an infant and a toddler at the same time. Our baby was four months old when she came home and our toddler was 18 months old. Right away, our toddler had attachment issues. It took her several months before she would go to other people, but we worked on building trust and teaching her that Mommy and Daddy weren't going there. Every day, we saw her slowly come out of her shell. As far as talking, she rarely said a word other than Mama until she was about 26 months old. From that time on, she has talked non-stop. She will be 3 in April and we are told her vocabulary and grammar are at the level of 1st to 2nd grade. She speaks in English and Spanish and can even do multiplication. Given her first exposure to English was just over a year ago, we are amazed. As far as her attachment issues... she is still a very sensitive child. She is very dramatic, but also very sweet and nurturing. She loves to show off, but she also gets her feelings hurt easily. While we could associate that with her early childhood issues, we also realize it could just be her personality. We have found her transition no less stressful nor demanding than that of our baby. Both are thriving and doing great. Best wishes in your journey!