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Originally Posted by teegrainca

What age do you think is a good age to introduce a child of an open adoption to the birth parents and family?

I think the earlier the better. In my case I wasn't able to handle it so J was almost a year old when I saw her again after we left the hospital. I would have loved for it to be sooner but ...... Since then there have been 2 other visits and we are planning on the next one. I don't see how it can be confusing if she isn't confused from the beginning. L is mom, B is dad, I am L and B is B ( slightly confusing since L&B have the same initials as me and bdad). There is a photo of B and myself in J's room and we will always be there for her so there isn't any confusion about who we are to her.