[blessedbybug]

We've been blessed to have family that hasn't tried to persuade us not to have an open relationship. But I can imagine for all of them it is hard to understand, as is alot of the adoption process. They can't understand why you would let another family be a part of your child's life mostly because they can't fathom it, having never experienced it. It may be a protectiveness of you... they don't want you to be hurt after all you've been through. We just try to talk about the positive aspects of our relnship with Bug's first family. We don't share some of the difficult things that have happened. It's Bug's story to tell anyway.