[LisaCA]

for dd it's just her norm. Dd met mom at birth (though they did spend 9 months getting to know each other) and then a few times that first week when we were in town. since we live about 2200 miles away, we met up with them again when dd was 11.5 months old. we expect to fly out again when dd's around 2, at least yearly if we can swing it. They're welcome at any time.

And it was funny-dd really hated being held by anyone. She's 11.5 months and we fly out. we get to bmom's house and she just went into everyone's lap, like she "knew" them . She was passed from aunt to cousin to bmom and then around again, and enjoyed every minute.

bmom and family as well as bdad and family are in pictures in her bedroom. we also have a small plastic photo album, the size of a small board book which holds relatives (4x6 photos) and we go thru that daily. it's her fav book and it's full of all the relatives holding her. Lets her know that all these people love her to death . it's her norm and I'm sure she'll love telling people "I have 4 grandmas and 4 grandpas", not to mention "two moms", lol.