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Um, at birth? I mean, the bmother is there right?
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LOL!!! Yes... of course she will be there, and she will be in our area for a month after the birth, so depending on how she feels and what she wants, I am sure she will be spending time with us, then, as well. I think she is unsure right now, as well, about what is right for her family too. She has 2 young children at home.
I am open to anything at this point. I want the birth mom to be comfortable... I don't want to make things more difficult for her, as well. I cannot imagine what she will be going through after the birth. In that respect, I really want to let her call the shots.
I agree whole-heartedly that the child's birth family can be like extended family and that many more people to love the child. I want things to be open and honest. I have already purchased a bunch of children's books that introduce adoption. I plan on putting a photo of the childs birth family and my husband and I together *edit...when I say this I mean one picture with all of us in it* in the baby's bedroom so that he/she always knows how much we care for them and how comfortable we are with the fact that the baby has more family than just us. Maybe after the birth, we can also get some shots of her holding the baby. I want this baby to know how much he/she is loved by the birth family as well as us.
It's actually the counselors at our agency that have kind of steered us away from an early meeting. Isn't that odd. I guess when it all comes down to it, we will have to see as time goes on what makes sense for all of us, what is comfortable and what is best for the baby (which is actually #1).
Thanks for your responses! I get a lot out of reading about other family's situations.
If anyone else wants to share their relationship with thier birth families, I would love the read those too.
Thanks!
Karen