[The Beach Bears]

February 22nd

2nd part



Let me get back to this, after our trip down we thought we faced some problems with having to terminate the birth parents rights but that everyone was on board. It turned out that the Grandfather who is now the only custodial parent is how can, I put this gently “a selfish, stubborn stupid old man” and that was from his daughter who loves him, my wife she does not put it that nicely. “He just wants to go back to his life in Florida and spend time with his granddaughter so he can die” that’s from his oldest son. His wife did all the heavy lifting and she is now gone I am now uncertain who is going to take care of this child in Florida. No wait there’s the “crazy broad living next door who wants to move in, this guy collects crazies like others collect pennies” From my college roommate.



So, now we are on death watch to see if his custody will expire before he returns form Florida, (While I do not wish him any specific ill he is in very poor health and 85 years old) But wait there is more he says that if we can adopt her we can have her. Back to trying to voluntarily terminate rights, let’s be that would be square one, no wait since we know they will not sign and we will be wasting the lawyer’s time, which may be a square back from one. We are going to write a letter about us and what we are all about and the family will take it with them when the visit the birth mother, if there is a God in heaven she will sign. The family seems to think the father is a slam dunk at that time the Grandfather can adopt her, oh no wait that’s not what we want hmmm do you get the felling we are being played here, so as I said before back on death watch.



We are going to speak to our lawyer about options on Friday; while we are not going to walk away (a statement that stunned most everyone in the family) we want to know what our options are for the future. It is our best hope that they will both sign for the family and he will see that he can not take care of her (sidebar here my college roommates wife has started an offensive of her own, it’s called Operation Dad taking care of a five year old, it stared yesterday with “oh I’m going out to the doctors I wont be back for a while, I’m taking {her child} to the cousins and {his child} can not go because she has a low grade fever and has been cranky all morning, good luck dad”. Upon return, five hour later she said “dad what does {his child} want for dinner PB& J he says, well you know where it is dad”, welcome to parenting old man.) And he will give custody over to us.



Now I am not trying to be mean if you are 85 years old and taking care of a five year old and offended I apologize, we are just all so raw with our emotions and my wife cried all night. We did not expect this in any way to be easy but we were hoping it could at least be possible.



Thanks for reading I will due weekday updates and keep updating.