I'm pretty mad about something that happened yesterday in the grocery store. I'm hoping I can get some advice on what to do.
Here's what happened...
I was shopping with my two kids (fost adopt children from foster care system) when a woman came up to my cart and said my son's name. She bent down and began talking to him. Saying how cute he is. Asking him to smile and stuff. I didn't know her and was wondering how she knew my son. So I asked her how she knew him. She then went on to tell me she was the sister in law of the head teacher in my son's daycare class. THEN she tells me that she knows I adopted them and that her sister in law told her the WHOLE story. She then whispers to me..."How could someone do that to children??? It is terrible!" And she leans over to my son who is 19 months and says, "But you have a good mommy now!"
I was furious. I didn't even know what to say. I pretty much was in shock, and walked away with her just standing there.
To back up a bit, I have only told four members in my family and four close friends the sensive details of my kids background. I have talked about it somewhat on here because I know others have gone through the same thing and I have people to relate to. BUT strangers don't need to know about the problems my kids bmom has had. When my son was having behavioral problems in school, I confided in my son's head teacher and told her that my son was exposed to drugs in the womb and that I may be seeing a specialist about it and how it could be affecting his behavior. I asked her to keep it confidential.
And NOW some woman approaches my kids at the grocery store and tells me she knows my kids WHOLE story???? I am really upset and angry. I mean, I'm sure she didn't think her sister in law would see me and say anything but still. What happened to my privacy???
And what do I say to this head teacher to get my point across without getting angry and ruining our relationship as my kids teacher. Ahhh! I feel violated. AND I'm also mad that she made that statement about my kids bmom. And right in front of my kids!!! My son is starting to understand things now. Gosh!
Well, I learned my lesson. I won't be bringing up his history again in the future when he is in school. If he has problems in the future I'm keeping his private history just that - private!
Does anyone have any advice as to what to say to the head teacher???
Help!
