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Oh sheesh, I just pushed some button on the computer and the whole message got deleted. I thought I was on a roll. I will try to remember what I said!

Our agency started up a group this past November. It is good to meet other waiting parents. Our group has recently mentioned that we want icebreaker activities--because the more you know each other--the more you support each other. My husband and I are now hopeful for the other couples too, not just us.

Next meeting we will be discussing birthparent meetings. What is appropriate to discuss at the meetings, what is not. Maybe some role-play.

Another meeting we discussed reality vs. fantasy children. To recognize what our expectations are of our to-be children and ourselves. It is okay to have them, but also be prepared that all fantasies will not be true. This can range from looks of a child, personality, health, etc.

We have also discussed networking (our agency did not have birthparents for 4 months, so this came about naturally for our group).

We also have an email list for each other. One member and I have sent a few to each other--sometimes you want to discuss something you are not comfortable bringing up in a group meeting.

I have enjoyed going. I will say that your idea of quarterly meetings is a good one. Ours meets once a month. It is not required that we go. I do like going, although, as more than one person has pointed out, going every month makes you remember that another month has gone by without adopting. Every other month would be fine with me.

Good luck and kudos to you for starting this up!