[mommamarci]

I have a friend who has a beautiful two year old. She is extremely intelligent and fairly well behaved. (She would be better if they did not spoil her rotten and give her everything she asks for.) Overall, she is a very good child. However, when my friend gets stressed out, she often jokingly says she wishes she had waited a few more years to have kids. I have been on the phone with her several times when she has told her daughter that she is driving her nuts and that her daddy needs to get home because she is tired of her. Let me give you a little background so you can better understand. First of all, my friend knows I have been trying to start a family for years. Secondly, my friend went through three years of fertility issues before becoming pregnant. Because of her, I promised myself a long time ago that when I had a child (whether through adoption of the 'old fashioned way') I would never make these comments because they are hurtful. Not only do they hurt the child, but it hurts people like me who want children more than anything. It hurts to see people with kids not enjoying them.
I do agree that biological parents sometimes make these comments, however, I hope that I would never say something like this because I can't imagine how devestated my child would be if s/he found out. Okay, sorry to ramble and feel free to quote me if you would like.
-Marci