[Janet Heath]

Pip,

Just wanted to say that I am sooo sorry. I know how hard you tried and wanted to make it work. You are a beautiful person. You have much self-worth. I have followed you around as well as many birthmoms here to help with understanding how you guys have and do deal with things, the situations you were in and now. Coming from an adoptee's point of view, because you are dealing with a male, the outside influences, confusion about his circumstances of birth and relinquishment and he is young that perhaps in time when he is older and more mature, you stand a better chance of a decent reunion. He no doubt has anger issues and is having a hard time sorting things out then with the bad outside influences. He is definitely being unfair to you. I understand your pain and how he is hurting you. You in no way should put up with it. Dealing with him right now seems to be like talking to a brick wall. Your bson clearly is not ready. Perhaps in time with some maturity, he will be. That is my hope.

That is my take on this as an adoptee.


God Bless You and Hugs,
Janet