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I think as you learn more about the children and the abuse and neglect and the effects it can have on them, you will feel more comfortable in what you can or can't handle. Some people increase their ranges while some people limit them after coming through the classes.
For instance, a vast majority of children in the foster care system (I've seen statistically) have had some sort of improper sexual contact (rape, abuse, molestation, fondling, viewing sexual acts or media, exploitation, etc, etc, etc). They often have random people coming in and out of their lives, do not have a strong support network of people to watch over their friendships made, you get the idea.
However, the majority of them do not act out sexually. So perhaps you might be open to parenting children who have some sort of history of sexual abuse, but not severe emotional or physical problems or who act out sexually.
Also, there might be things you think now you would be able to handle --like Reactive Attachment Disorder--(after all, they'll stop reacting when they have stability and love, right?), but when you find out more about these situations you might decide you can't handle them afterall.
Another example: something that surprised me when I first started looking was how many people were okay with pre- and postnatal drug usage but were not okay with alcohol usage/FAS/FAE. Do you know the long term differences between drug and alcohol exposure? It surprised me.
Don't expect to be able to adopt the "perfect" child. But don't feel bad about knowing your own family's strengths and weaknesses and advocating for the perfect child for you. I've heard people say that any child adopted through foster care should be considered special needs. That they'll have some sort of issue. The question is if your family is able to effectively parent a child with that particular set of issues. The more you learn, the more you will be assured of your internal compass pointing in the right direction.
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