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Originally Posted by shadowdove
Friends and family are not equipped with the knowledge or experience to give such advice. They have not walked in your shoes, they have not experienced what you have experienced..From the initial loss of your daughter to adoption to the present. Talk is cheap! from those who do not have the experience of or the accompanying emotions of that particular experience..
Please be a bit more patient with yourself and your daughter.. You are only in reunion with your daughter not quite 2 years. You are both in the early stages of reunion, still in the 'balancing act' period.. Reunion is not a one-time event and Wah-lah! everything is OK and we can all act like we were never separated.. The reality is that both mother and adult child lost to adoption, are intimate strangers, and reunion is a forever evolving process.. Yes, we all have to have our boundaries, mother and adult child, doesn't mean anyone has to 'let go'.
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I disagree with what you have posted here… and the beauty of this place is that we can disagree..
My husband was a great deal of help when I hit walls in my reunion.. My third born son was also very good at giving me the words that I needed to hear..
He said to me once.. “Mom he has a family.. He is okay.. Its you who is not okay.”
Reality.. For me.
You write that no one has to let go.. How do you know this??
Jackie