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we initially planned to adopt an older child (around 5 years old or so) but after doing some reading, decided that our lifestyle at that time didn't really work well with older kids. we read Toddler adoption by mary hopkins-best and i'd recommend it. it gave the positives and negatives of adopting toddlers-very useful.
for us, the attachment thing was a problem. not all kids have attachment issues, but since you're not sure til they arrive, it was a difficult gamble, particularly since we both traveled a lot. since dh couldn't commit to staying home for a year or so, we decided to go for a newborn. If I can talk dh into fosteradoption, we may go that route down the road.
good luck!
Lisa
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-first time amom to dd, born 7/7/04
-placed in our arms by a very loving bmom 7/9/04
-bfather's rights terminated 9/7/04
-just connected with bdad!!! 2/9/05
-visited bfamilies for a week, awesome trip 6/05
-bfather signed legally binding open adoption
agreement 7/05
-finalized (woohoo!) 18th of November 2005
-Thinking about adoption #2!
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