[proudmommyof 2]

When you were pursuing the adoption, you said that you put your fertility on the back burner. Would you be okay with the possibility that you may never be pregnant and experience child birth? If you are, you may be ready to pursue adoption again.

You have to examine how important it is to you that the child be biologically yours, that you believe that you did what you could to conceive. Every situation is different.

I was 23 when we started TTC. We started doing fertility work-ups after about a year. They would find something small, and correct it (mild endo, correctable for me, hypthyroidism, on meds, dh had varicocele surgery) that each time they would say, "That's why you're not pregnant", and then nothing would happen.

We started the adoption process about 1 1/2 to 2 years into our marriage and fertility troubles. For us, though, this was always part of the plan. We planned to adopt after having bio children, but always planned it. That is why we started into adoption relatively quickly.

We didn't try the IVFs. WE did a couple of IUIs. We had a failed domestic adoption, and it was the hardest thing that ever happened to us. Which then led us to Russian adoption.

After Dennis came home, I tried a couple of IUIs again. MOre to save money, but as one last change. AFter 2, I asked myself why we were spending this money, when there was a child waiting for us somewhere. That led us to Tommy.

For a time, I really wanted to be pregnant and to have all of the experiences that came with it. Now, I just want more children.

Would I be thrilled to find that I was pregnant? Of course. Would I be crushed to find out that I never will be? Not really.

Good luck making your decision!