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Well this is really a personal choice since you know the ups and downs of adoption.
I went through IVF and when it failed I decided to put my money where I knew I would one day have a child - through adoption.
I guess a little history awould help. We did allt he infertility stuff you could and in May of 2003 we did the IVF fresh cycle. I eneded up with a chemical pregnancy. All thsoe shots and such and money to me down the drain, we decided to do adoption.
In July we went to an adoption meeting and then in September turned in our letter.
On December 28th we were called that we had been selected and she was in labor. The situation was sketchy but we borught Andrew home 2 days later. 5 days after that his mom changed hewr mind and came to get him since here in CA she has 30 days. It was devestating, but I had always thought things didn't seem right and that she made the decision to quickly.
15 days after losing A, we were called again with what our facilitator thought was a similar situation. We disagreed and decided to go for it. She was due 5 days later. That day came and went and we thought she changed her mind - she wanted no contact so we had no way of knowing. About a week later I got a call on my cell while teaching that she was in labor and wanted us there at the hospital to greet the new baby!
We drove like crazy and were there waiting for our forever son. It was incredible.
Later we went back to IVF for a frozen cycle so that I would know that I gave all our embies chance and I think because of miracle number 1, we got a miracle number 2! I truly thought it would not work and was doing it so that I would know I tried to give our life a chance and was planning on going back on the adoption list in February. We also only did that because it was a quarter of the cost of our previous adoption.
Personally, I would go with adoption if money is tight and you think that is the road you want to pursue, but really it is a long road and you have to decide with your DH which road is best for the 2 of you.
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