[ddhuab]

My dh and I decided right off (when it looked like we would need to try IUI, and then the next step would be IVF) that we would go straight with adoption for our first child.

Why?

Because just doing the Clomid and shots, I was already feeling horrible, always asking myself, "Will I ever be a mother?" I was also very concerned about all the hormones wreaking havoc with my emotions. And the $$$ - it can really add up if you need to do 2 or more cycles. And you never know if it will work. I just wanted to increase the chances of being a family. Also, I had no problem with the idea of adoption.

Now we are in the adoption process. It wasn't as "quick and sure" as I had invisioned. And it is more expensive than I had imagined. (but still comparable to a few cycles of IVF).

We may try IVF for our second child in a few years, if I feel like the emotional side effects won't adversely effect my parenting.

Good luck in your decision,
D.