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Every situation and child is different. We have not yet adopted. We are fostering to adopt two toddlers who came to us almost a year ago. TPR process has started and stopped several times.
I believe the bonding process has been helped by me being a SAHM. Although my dp travels a lot for work and both girls are just as bonded to her.
They still have weekly visits which has caused some behavior issues (long story) but they are clearly attached to us. They show preference for us when around other people but the older one will go and play with familiar adults without problems. The younger one likes to have us nearby most of the time and had some problems when she had to stay overnight with a relative due to my having to go to the hospital.
Before us, the girls had been in 3 or 4 placements but luckily they seem to be doing well. The younger one was behind in development but has caught up and is doing well.
Hope this answers your question.
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Foster Mom for the past 3 years, hoping to eventually adopt.
Currently fostering 2 sisters, "D1" and "D2", ages 3.5 and 2.
Mom to C, born 12/30/05 (20 weeks early) & died 12/30/05
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