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I suppose the reaction depends on the type of adoption you want and the type of child you want to adopt. I know my facilitator has worked with dual military couples before with no problem but they, like us,were adopting an aa or bi-racial child.

I don't see it as being any different than being married to a commercial pilot or off-shore oil-rigger. There are lots of people with risky jobs who have to be away from home for long periods. If it's just an issue with the agency you're talking to, I'd either find another agency or find one that was at least open to hearing what you have to offer. Don't give up so easy!

There are so few people in the military anymore (as a proportion of the general population) that many people just have no clue what military life is like, what the deployment schedules are like, etc. Sometimes you just need to take the time to educate them about the benefits of your jobs/lifestyles - travel for you and your kids, diverse neighborhoods, great healthcare, great child-care benefits, community support, etc.