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Our youngest sons bfather is a drug dealer who has a very violent hstory. We have no urge to have any type of contact with him. I have sent pictures to his mother who has never responded. I have also talked with her on the phone. I am actually relieved she doesnt seem to want contact because to be quite homest, they are a complete and total mess over there and I am not sure it is healthy for our family. But I did try.

The birthmother of our boys ( they share the same bmother) Is a career criminal and drug addict, but she isn't what I would deem dangerous. If when she gets out of jail, we decide she will be dangerous, or at the least, a bad influence, we will not allow contact. For the time being, I write her every week and send pictures twice a month. Not because I want to~ Because trust me, I don't~ but because it will be important for the boys one day.( what makes it harder is that birthmom is my sister in law)
If there is ever ANY element of danger, then to us, openess is not an option. Our first priority is the safety and well being of our children.