Originally Posted By
Pam
We got the entire files of both Raphael and Rayon and talked to their foster parents. In spite of all that we still had kids who were vastly different from their files. I'm starting to think that foster parents just don't have the investment in the kids that we do, so that they miss a lot of important stuff. The therapist who saw Rayon for years in Delaware was also wrong about him....he had fooled her. At this point in time, if I were adopting again, I'd assume that maybe 50% of the information may be accurate. With Rayon it was more like 20% (and we have EVERYTHING t hey had on him, and, in Delaware, I met his foster mom, teacher, and therapist....and we talked to his social worker extensively. He had everyone fooled. Raphael's info was a little more accurate...maybe 40%. The entire staff of Family Services in NJ was shocked to learn that he is NOT mildly mentally retarded (they were all sure he was, as were his teachers, therapists, foster mom, etc) and that he had migraine headaches almost daily (I have NO clue how they missed this!). NONE! He claimed he had migraines all his life, and he would have auras and throw up almost every day due to them. He needed to be put on meds to stop the migraines. I was the first person to ever treat him for the migraines. You get your child and the information based on what they know...which doesn't seem to be a while lot, especially if the kid "holds back." What we have are two files that are pretty useless...the children are the files!!! Good luck
