Hi and thanks for sharing your story,
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There's so much to learn, so much to experience. I read your letter and I believe in timing. It might've not been the right time for you, but I'm sure on their part, they were anxious about you.
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Yes, I think you're right.
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I won't be really close to my birth mother, but there is some contact. I do like the fact that I have family history from her. I was able in this stage of her life to relieve her of some guilt, telling her I had a good life growing up, and that was important to me to tell her she made a good choice, and to her it was a good thing too.
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Yes, I was happy to do that for bmom as well.
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I did bond pretty quick to my brother. I was going to keep it down-key, my finding him because I didn't think we'd be that involved. I have adoptive brothers, and wondered how they would deal with all this, that was stressful for me. As it turned out they were happy for me. The more we attached, the more I realized how much I love him and want him at functions concerning weddings, birthdays, etc. He lives in another state, but have had visits and regular e mails weekly.
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My half siblings are not mature enough to have a relationship with me at this stage. It has all been very difficult for them.
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It is emotionally draining to us and you have to decide whats good for you. No judgements. I know timing was it for me. Plus a desire. At my age, (middle) I appreciate finding them. They are all at a place where they do too. If we'd found each other earlier, I don't know if it would have worked. Everyone was going through their own lives, troubles, etc, but now it seems we're settled.
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Yes, at this stage in my life, I have enough crisis on my plate--I really cannot handle more.
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I'm connecting with them, but everyone is different. The blessing is that my page in life is no longer a "blank page". No matter, the good and the bad, it's not blank and that is very cool to me. I hope you find your way.
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I'm glad things worked out for you
