[Big Dreamer]

Melissa,

Closed can be as closed as you want it.

You can have someone choose the family for you or you can find the family and only exchange first names.

•You can request that an agency or attorney choose your child's adoptive family.
•You will not exchange any identifying information (full names and addresses).
•The adoptive family receives information about your medical history up to the point of placement. There is no planned, ongoing sharing of social and medical information after the adoption is finalized.
•There is no contact between you and the adoptive family, such as sharing of photos and letters, or visits.
Access to finding you (by your child) is limited by law and must be by mutual agreement at the time the child is of legal age.

Disadvantages
In this form of adoption, there is no ongoing exchange of information, other than a court-ordered exchange in the case of a medical emergency. As your child grows, he or she can have questions that remain unanswered. Confidential adoptions might make it difficult to get information that your child will want to know about you.

I was glad to see that you are still exploring your options.

How far along are you?

Think of you often and hope that you are doing well.

I am here if you want to talk.

Maria