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Playing devils advocate, maybe for this girl it is excessive. If she is uncomfortable with it, then there is a reason. Adoption is supposed to be about whats best for the child, maybe at this point in her life, the contact is not what is best. Of course, I don't know all of the details, just what I read in the letter. SO what happens if/when the adopted child does not want contact? I know that when birth parents shut off contact, it can hurt the child and there is nothing that can be done. I can only imagine that for a child to want to cease contact with the birth family would be painful as well. But at age 14, this girl knows what she wants.
Paul is 6 and he has zero urge to visit T in prison. He flat out told me " I will not go visit again and thats final." Do I force him because she is his birth mother, or do I allow him to have some control over his feelings. ( We have visited her 3 times in the past year and he doesn't want to go back)
Touchy subject I know.....
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When there is room in the heart, there is room in the home.
Lana
Mommy to
*Sarah 7/88*
*Joshua (6/25/89-1/21/90)*
*Daniel 4/90*
*Jordan 9/91*
*Timothy 4/93*
*Paul 1/14/00
Finalized 11/15/2001*
*Elijah Mark 6/16/05
Finalized 11/22/05*
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